You asked how to keep your kid's dream alive. You are truly those league's fantasies. They totally prey on a parents' desire to cater to their kids. They are awful. Been subjected to it.
I don't understand that reason for playing expensive hockey, 'I don't want to crush my kid's dreams'. I can't help you there. For me personally, if I am funding the dreams, things have to done within reason. No AAA around here for me. I don't have a AAA player.
The development is not any better than what we get in PAHL and private lessons. I see the players.
If you have the money, your kid can play for a long time. Fund your kid's dream of you want. You have a lot of company.